Have you ever had this happen to you with a client or potential client ...
they may be a no-show for a meeting, program, or agreement with you,
they approached you, and now they're out of touch,
- they do not return any of multiple efforts to reach them,
- and you know they are alive and well?
I have some answers!
I WAS THIS PERSON! This BAD client. The TIME-WASTING client. Yes, indeed, I have said more than once "it takes being a great follower to be a great leader."
It was not until I SURRENDERED to the Truth -- I AM NOT PERFECT -- and GAVE MYSELF A BREAK, that I was able to BE in communication again, without GUILT. It was a process, however. It did not happen overnight. The process is called BEING VULNERABLE -- Perhaps THE single most important lesson of my life thus far! This POWER is UNMATCHED among people!
- I dropped out of paid programs. I thought 'throwing money at my issues' would solve it.
- I blamed the facilitator for my lack of learning. I didn't know then that the level of my effort would match the level of my results.
- I ignored phone calls from my coach. I didn't think they were important.
I DIDN'T CARE about what they thought. That is when I realized, I did not care WHAT I THOUGHT!
We see in others our own character ... and flaws. We see in others, their greatness, because it is a reflection of our own. The more we focus on greatness, the bigger it gets!
Now, as an Authority on women learning and applying timeless business success principles to grow their businesses, ask for, and receive service remuneration they have earned and deserve, I am experiencing MYSELF as I was before I learned that how I engage in one program is merely a reflection of how I engage in all areas of my life.
At one time, if I had a client that matched the top 5 bullet points, I would have
- 'chased them down,'
- 'insisted' they get their money's worth,
- gotten caught up in how this had 'something or ANYTHING at all to do with ME!'
Now I know this for sure: They are WEEDING THEMSELVES OUT for me! I don't have time to waste CHASING THEM!
As I get picky and choosy about who I will work with, I realize this person who hasn't yet completed the process, is not my IDEAL CLIENT ... not now, that is.
That's a paradigm shift -- a NEW WAY OF THINKING, THAT STICKS and SAVES TIME!
Of course, I have occasionally for 'a second or two' wondered 'what I might have done to cause their disappearance,' and in the blink of an eye, my deep-seated BELIEF, that it's not time for them now, steps in and RUNS THE SHOW!
Is there a "call to Action" for you after reading this post? Is there someone you need to call to be vulnerable and simple 'tell them' where you are and why you have 'disappeared?' I recommend you DO IT. Not only will they feel better ... SO WILL YOU!!!
Please share via comments if or when you 'cleaned something up' and how you felt doing it and/or what was the Result!