One of the first levels of awareness and self assessment in the process of intentional personal inner change in understanding our true and infinite potential, is realizing that we each are responsible for our own choices, whether executed intentionally or by default. Being responsible works 24/7/365 whether we are present or aware of our part in the result, or not.
The best way to describe being always responsible is that it works like gravity. Whether we know that if we jump off a multistory building that we will land with a splat ... or not, the truth is, splat is what occurs. It's your responsibility whether you jump by intention or not.
It's easy to be confused initially as to how 'being responsible' has an effect on your level of success when you first begin your inner journey. Breathe. Out of confusion will come order for you ... if you just keep walking.
It is in the practice of mentally stopping yourself in the moment and purposely 'taking responsibility' for what happens, regardless of what, that builds courage and integrity. You are bombarded with information ... much, much more than a super human could ever manage. It makes sense to be confused as to how this works. Breathe. If you are not confused, you are one of 2 or 3 women out of 100 that is way ahead of the game.
Once you accept responsibility for your all your life -- the things you like and the ones you do not -- don't let this happen to you! Even being responsible has a pitfall!
Let me share about Libby. Smart, in her early 50's, married with two children through college and on their own, she was looking forward to retirement in a few years. She was excited to start her inner journey and was doing a lot of reading and going to seminars and workshops as a start.
One morning a frantic call came in to the president of her local women's group from Libby (the group's speaker coordinator), just four days before their quarterly business luncheon. "We don't have a speaker," Libby told the president. "I forgot to reconfirm and she took another engagement. I apologize. I take full responsibility."
What happened? Libby told the truth, step 1. How many people would have 'made up an excuse' rather than own up? Most. So this work is excellent.
She had already gotten on a cellular level that taking responsibility for her actions gave her access to a powerful, good feeling. Stepping up to the plate, no matter how tough it may have been in the past to 'own up' for a mistake, was now a given for Libby. She now felt no guilt of any kind whenever she owned up to something. She stepped up to the plate, picked up the bat, and "hit it out of the park."
Here is where she got trapped. Something unexpected happened to Libby -- something you can avoid easily once you know about it.
What you didn't know ... or the rest of the story ... is that this was not the first time Libby had 'taken responsibility for not doing what she said she would -- not being her Word' inside this women's group. It was not about a speaker then, but about being part of a 'delivery team' during the holidays for the underprivileged the year before, when Libby was a no show. Oh, she called, and yes, she apologized and 'took responsibility' and it still however put a crimp in the delivery schedule for everyone as they had no lead time to readjust their schedule.
This once newly found awareness had now become an excuse or a real 'racket.' It 'looked' like an apology, but it was not. It was not 'authentic,' if you will. It was an automatic excuse ... and that was it.
People began to hear that same phrase from Libby for one thing or another and before long people avoided giving her any task with a deadline. They already 'knew' from her past behavior that you could not count on her. Libby didn't see it, but I watched this happening.
Once you take responsibility, step 2 is setting a short deadline for what you promised and meeting it, no matter what. Libby thought that simply 'being responsible' was enough. And it worked for a while. What she didn't see was that she impacted everyone else and taught them to not count on her. We teach others how to treat us.
What I found curious is that I've known Libby for a number of years and she has always kept her Word with me. What occurred to me is that perhaps we have a hierarchy of people ('our Word' profiling) with whom we would never break our word and those with whom we will. So our Word is for sale.